It’s no secret that the dating game has changed since I was in my prime. Call me an old romantic, but traditional values and thoughtful gestures seem to have gone down the plughole…along with most of my hair.
Nevertheless, after twenty something years of marriage I’ve found myself back in the dating game and, amazingly, it doesn’t feel like the end of the world. In fact, I feel like someone’s finally taken off my blinkers. Everyday I’m realising more and more about myself and the weird yet wonderful world of dating, collecting little pearls of wisdom and I feel like finally everything is falling in to place.
Here’s some of the differences I’ve found in mature dating compared to dating in my twenties:
I am also learning that for a healthy relationship to blossom we need to love each other for who we are now; not what we were when we were younger, and not what we could be if we were skinnier/more assertive/less lazy. At our age, we aren’t afforded the luxury of changing who we are. We’re the sum of our experiences, thoughts and actions, and the key to successful mature online dating is to accept one another for exactly how we are.
If you’d have told the younger me that I would be back on the dating scene at over 40 I would’ve been horrified, but in actual fact I feel far more equipped (and confident) than that full headed 20 year old with boyish good looks and a six-pack to die for. Life has taught me to appreciate others for who they are, but mostly to appreciate myself.
I do not need a relationship to justify my life, my life is great! I have a job that I love, a home, family, friends, hobbies; I’m a very lucky man. Having a woman to share my life with would be the cherry on the cake however I now know that settling for less is not worth it. I’m happy being single until I meet someone who enhances my life, not hinders it.View All